What We Learn in Winter
The bleakness of winter often settles over us like the shadow of a threatening storm on a picnic day. On days where the snow piles high and the winds whisper…
The Quiet Ache of Waiting: When Seeds Refuse to Bloom
If a watched pot never boils, maybe the real miracle isn’t the boil itself but insted, the fact that I had a enough courage and trust to put it on…
“I Don’t Love You Anymore”
No-Contact with Parents: A Gentle Exploration of Distance, Healing, and the Space Between Us That’s what some people hear when an adult child chooses no-contact, but it’s rarely the truth,…
Spillways
It’s okay to cry. Crying creates self-awareness, carving out space for our authentic selves. Yet, we hide our tears so often, don’t we? From our children, our spouses, sometimes even…
The Importance of Equality in Blended Family Systems
In today’s world, blended families (also known as stepfamilies) are increasingly common. With divorce rates, remarriages, and new partnerships on the rise, many households include children from previous relationships alongside…
The Longing Beneath the Quiet: On Missing Friendship at Midlife
I turned 45 this year, and in the stillness that follows such milestones, something became clear: painfully, undeniably clear. I don’t really have friends anymore. The one who truly knew…
My Body Is a Vessel
This morning I woke up thinking about my body. Specifically my body as a vessel. When I get into my car I do not become the car. I experience the…
The Reciprocity Trap
I’m at my kitchen table, the one with late night talks, family time and stories etched into its grain. It’s 2020, and I’m writing my second letter of the week…
The Magic in the Mess: Sourdough, Soul Friends, and the Cosmic Dance
I’m kneading sourdough bagel dough in my quiet kitchen, and my heart is breaking. Amanda, my Anam Cara, my soul friend, should be here, flour on her nose and probably…
Finding Myself Beyond the Duel: Embracing Who I Am Without Dividing the Whole
I’ve been thinking about Hamilton lately (I just watched in Syracuse this week)—about Alexander Hamilton’s relentless drive to prove himself and Aaron Burr’s cautious waiting for the right moment. Both…
I’m Not Lucky, Privileged, or Blessed.
I’m Not Lucky, Privileged, or Blessed. In a world quick to label our lives with words like “lucky,” “privileged,” or “blessed,” I’ve come to realize those terms don’t sit right…
You Matter Too: Rebuilding Connection in a Fractured World
The world is loud. It screams at us through screens, wars raging, ice caps melting, economies teetering, and voices clashing in endless debates. It’s enough to make your heart race,…
A Candid Discussion About My Weight
It’s hard to pinpoint an exact beginning but here goes: I had battled endometriosis since my early twenties resulting in 10 pregnancies and 8 of those resulting in the loss…
15 lessons I’ve learned the hard way. Part 2
1. If you’ve developed a gluten allergy, not even cake is worth the pain it creates if you eat it. 2. One of the hardest things in life is realizing…
Doctor of Behavioral Health
Surprise! I’m getting a doctorate! I think I’ve known all my life that I wanted to be a doctor but I never found my “Cinderella” to my slipper until now.…
Best Self
Your best Self develops from a deep understanding of who are you and how that compares with who you want to me. How can we be our best possible Self?…
Privilege or Position?
We hear a lot about privilege lately in regards to people who are privileged. We are being conditioned to regard privilege as something that was automatically given to a person…
Anxiety Cake
I’m anxious. I’m a pretty levelheaded person even if it takes me a minute, I can usually pinpoint the source of my anxiety and use different techniques to calm myself…
Dear Moms and Dads
In my current position I get to be with your kids. Let me just start off my saying that I am truly honored to be in the presence of such…
Something
I’ve written several well thought out and wonderful blogs over the course of the past week, in my bed, in my head, and in the early morning hours. I’ve promised…
Letting Go
Letting go is sometimes less painful than holding on. It’s a common phrase we’ve all heard a time or two in our lives. How could letting go of something, knowing…
This doesn’t feel right.
I’ve been wondering something about myself. Sometimes I get this feeling inside of myself that says simply “this doesn’t feel right”. It happens in all kinds of situations. So I’m…
Help, I need to write
I need to write. I need you to help me write. Give me ideas of what to write about. Family, marriage, kids, bills, anxiety, stressful situations or a little light…
Dear Ex-Best Friend
You hurt me. I’m only writing this to get it off of my chest because I have been reeling for months. The emotional ups and downs I have been experiencing…
How to Break Your Own Heart: A recipe for disaster
If you’ve every wondered how you can break your own heart I think I’ve found the perfect DIY recipe. I once heard a saying that went something like; “the biggest…
15 lessons I’ve learned the hard way.
Never forget to put the baking soda in your homemade cake, while it still kind of taste good it loses all of the delightfulness that effectively makes it cake. Never…
Mean Girl, Mister Bully
When I was in high school there were many defining moments that told me who I was. One of those moments was when I was walking down the hallway in…
I can’t fix you
I grew up ugly. I was teased in every imaginable way possible by small town and small minded people. I was labeled ugly by those same people. I carried their…
I can’t fix you
I grew up ugly. I was teased in every imaginable way possible by small town and small minded people. I was labeled ugly by those same people. I carried their…
Planting Seeds
There exists among us a breed of humans who yearn to make the lives of other people better. They are made of light and they have an innate desire to…