Your best Self develops from a deep understanding of who are you and how that compares with who you want to me. How can we be our best possible Self?
When I say best possible Self I’m talking about you becoming the best version of yourself. How often do we really analyze who we are? Not just the image of we project to others, but the ability to stand comfortably in a room full of other people and know without a doubt that you know who you are. The ability to receive any criticism and use it constructively. The ability to not judge others for any reason – ever.
When we begin becoming our best possible Self, we understand first; that it is a journey that will never end. We will continuously be adding knowledge and experience to the definition of who we are. We allow that knowledge and experience to inform us from a place that we determine best suits us as individuals.
The second thing we must do is imagine our future. How does that image of who we are correlate with other areas of our lives? How do we conduct our Self in relationships? What type of career do we have and how are we our best Self in it? How does who we are now line up with who we want to be? How does what we are contributing to our own lives now relate with who we want to be five years from now? Ten years from now?
This relates to both future and present thinking and behaviors. I ask myself almost daily, before I post to social media, before I react to an emotion that I am feeling, and before I engage in out of the ordinary activities: “Am I representing who I want to be?” Would this post show my best possible Self? Would my reaction right now represent who I am, who I want to be, and how I want to present my Self to others? Is this who I really am? “Is this helpful or hurtful to others? “Could this affect me in the future? If I can’t answer those questions honestly and without hesitation, I usually rethink whatever it is I’m about to engage in.
When you begin to act from a place of best possible self you will notice it is hard to break those reactive habits that you are used to engaging in, but, after awhile it becomes the new normal, it gets easier and you may find your that outlook on yourself and others improves.
Bottom line is, know yourself, know your morals, know your values, what’s important to you, and create a definition of yourself that you can be proud of.
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